Facing my wife’s dementia: Should I fly off to see our grandkids without her?

Marc Silver (thanks to Helen McP)

A wife and grandmother with dementia is connected through a trail of stars to her husband and grandchildren.

Maria Fabrizio for NPR

I had to make a decision. Would I take my first leisure trip without my wife in … well, it seems like forever … to see our grandkids 2,000 miles away?

Marsha and I have been married over 40 years. We have traveled together to so many places around the world and in the U.S., from bigtime tourist draws like Paris and the Grand Canyon to the teeny tiny island of Simi, Greece.

We were a team. We shared blissful moments – I’ll never forget those night stars above the canyon’s North Rim — and conquered obstacles. When one of us flailed, the other would come to the rescue – like that time I led us in the wrong direction in search of our hotel on a winding road in Positano, Italy, until Marsha wisely suggested an about-face.

Our traveling life entered an unwelcome new stage when Marsha was diagnosed with dementia a few years ago. At first the symptoms were mild and we were able to keep taking trips — mainly to Utah to visit our grandchildren and to California, where our younger daughter moved in 2021.

But dementia did what it always does. It steals a person’s abilities, sometimes so slowly you’re not aware and sometimes with a startling decline in mere weeks.

When we flew to New York for a funeral last December, Marsha’s gait was slow but we negotiated the airport without too much difficulty. By spring it was clear that traveling by air would be incredibly difficult – her pace had slowed, her cognitive abilities had slipped, her spells of agitation, prompted by noise and unfamiliar places, had increased.

Negotiating our home had also become a challenge. It seemed that the time had come to consider a residential facility.

Marsha moved in June – on our anniversary. It was the hardest moment of our married life – harder than living through Marsha’s breast cancer treatment, sadder than losing our parents. Because even though I had the support of our medical team and our daughters, I had to make the decision on my own and couldn’t ask her to weigh in.

We did what our medical team suggested. My daughters and I dropped her off at the facility we’d picked – a two-story suburban home with eight residents that didn’t feel like an institution. We stayed for about an hour, then said we had to run an errand. It seemed heartbreakingly cruel to walk away and leave her with a flimsy excuse. But the staff enveloped her with love, and she didn’t protest when we left.

Her adjustment has been pretty good – the staff members are the kindest people you could hope for. But I know that when I visit – which I do nearly every day – her face lights up.

And then, it was nearly fall. Our granddaughter Jolene had a birthday coming up – she’d be turning 6. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be there?

But I couldn’t bring myself to make the decision. I knew I couldn’t explain to Marsha that I would be going to Utah for four days but will be back. It would be too much to process.

I was so worried: How would Marsha be without my daily visits? What if she became depressed and agitated during my absence? Would she somehow think I’d abandoned her?

Marsha’s nurse practitioner and the staff at the house where she lives all told me to go – that I needed to see my grandkids, to live my life. That that’s what Marsha would want. Still I felt anxious and guilty. I couldn’t bring myself to buy a ticket.

Then on a FaceTime with the grandson, Conrad, age 3, he looked at me with his big blue eyes and said: “Can you come to my house?”

What else could I say but “yes.”

So on a Thursday night I spent a couple hours with Marsha after work, as usual. Earlier that week she had been calm and happy when I was with her. Thursday was a little bumpier. She was upset, she kept saying that people were telling her to do things. I had a hard time comforting her.

But when I kissed and hugged her goodbye, she smiled with warmth and love. I used usual vague departing line: I love you and I have to go do an errand now but I’ll be back soon.

At 7:20 a.m. on Friday I was on a plane to Utah.

Conrad and Jolene shrieked with joy when they saw me. We hugged and rolled on the floor, we read books, we went on a drive to a giant slide.

Conrad, asked as we drove, “Where is Nina?” That’s how he pronounces Nana, what the grandkids call my wife. His innocent question made me tear up. I told a white lie: She wanted to come but she’s not feeling well and couldn’t travel. Although in a way that was the real truth.

There were many flashes of sorrow during my visit. When I’d see something that reminded me of earlier trips with Marsha, I was gripped by sadness at the terrible turn in our lives.

I also felt so lonely. When you’ve lived as part of a couple for decades, and suddenly it’s just you, and yet your partner is still there … I felt as if I had lost half of my soul. At Jolene’s birthday party, I had lots of people to talk to but I felt so alone.

Yet there were moments that filled me with joy, that let me conquer my sadness.

One morning before the sun had risen, Jolene tiptoed into my bed with a stack of four books for me to read to her and said, “I love you, Saba.” (That’s what the grandkids call me – Hebrew for grandpa.) Minutes later Conrad came to cuddle: “Saba, I love you so much.”

And when I put them to bed while mom and dad were at a party, I had no choice but to be in that moment.

Jolene picked a book. It wasn’t my favorite so I asked if I could pick a different one. “You can’t. You’re not a child,” said Jolene. Then Conrad wanted me to stroke his back and hold his hand while he was falling asleep. Only I put my hand OVER the bed rail to take his hand and was immediately instructed, No, you have to put your hands through the bed rail.

They both drifted off while I made up a story about a unicorn whom I named Matilda.

I knew I had made a good decision to come and be with our dear grandchildren.

How did Marsha do? Both daughters and my wife’s sisters called her; they reported that she seemed okay. I felt as if FaceTiming with her myself might bring up worries – where’s Marc? Then again, maybe it wouldn’t have.

The cruelty of dementia is that there is no reliable road map — you just have to take in all the advice you can from wise souls and then go with your instincts.

After a long weekend in Utah, I got home in the wee hours of Tuesday morning — and went to see Marsha that night. I’d been absent for four days. Marsha gave me a lovely smile and said, “You look so good.”

“You look good, too,” I said. I gave her a big hug. And wiped away a few tears. “Are you okay?” Marsha asked, holding my hand. For a minute, she was my caregiver as she’d been throughout our life together.

What could I say? I was overwhelmed with emotion, from the joy of the trip, the anxiety of the separation. But yes, I told her honestly, I was okay.

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Advent Music at St James Cathedral

Thanks to Mary R.

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Celebrate National Family Caregivers Month with a special dementia caregiver screening of award-winning documentary Wine, Women, & Dementia –

Tuesday November 28th at the Murano.

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Strike three!

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WEEK IN REVIEW: Trump attends Palmetto Bowl as billboards taunt visit

From The Charleston City Paper (thanks to Bob P.)

Former President Donald Trump attended  Saturday’s USC-Clemson football game as he and thousands of fans encountered seven electronic billboards around Columbia highlighting an anti-Trump message:  “You lost.  You’re guilty.  Welcome to Columbia, Donald.”  

The billboards, which also say “Sponsored by League of Radical Leftist Vermin, Jay Bender instigator,” referenced a comment Trump made in a New Hampshire speech on Veterans Day to root out “radical left thugs that live like vermin.”  

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After moon landing, Gaylord Perry shocked everyone

Manager Dark said, ‘There’ll be a man on the moon before he hits a home run,’ and he was right. (Thanks to Bob P)

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The changing colors of leaves in the Autumn

Thanks to Ann M.

“How beautifully leaves grow old. How full of light and color are their last days.”
— John Burroughs

“I hope I can be the autumn leaf, who looked at the sky and lived. And when it was time to leave, gracefully it knew life was a gift.”
— Dodinsky

“And all at once, summer collapsed into fall.” 
― Oscar Wilde

“Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower.”
― Albert Camus

“Autumn colors remind us we are all one dancing in the wind.”
― Lorin Morgan-Richards

Beautiful on the surface, deep in meaning. Let’s live like the leaves, dancing together without separation or prejudice.

Joel 2:23: “Be glad, people of Zion, rejoice in the Lord your God, for He has given you the autumn rains because he is faithful. He sends you abundant showers, both autumn and spring rains, as before.”

Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower.”
― Albert Camus

“Autumn is the time of year when Mother Nature says, “Look how easy, how healthy, and how beautiful letting go can be.”
― Toni Sorenson

Even when the leaves have been shed the life remains in the tree. Like “an oak, whose substance is in them, when they cast their leaves” (Isaiah 6:13). In the same way, the Lord is able to revive us spiritually.

The bright, fresh color of the leaf of a tree or plant shows that it is richly nourished by a good soil, hence it is the symbol of prosperity (Ps 1:3; Jer 17:8). A faded leaf, on the contrary, shows the lack of moisture and nourishment, and becomes a fit emblem of adversity and decay (Job 13:25; Isa 64:6).

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The three most important things – Irvin Yalom

“Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.” – Irvin Yalom

Irvin Yalom is an author, teacher and practicing psychiatrist. He has authored novels, memoirs and textbooks. All of his works are worth reading. The most recent one is a mutually authored book with his wife who is dying from cancer. They alternate chapters as her disease progresses. For anyone who has lost a loved one, or is nearing a loss (basically all of us), I’d recommend reading A Matter of Death and Life: Love, Loss and What Matters in the End.

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Only in America

Thanks to Sybil-Ann

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Ike’s Other Warning

By Max Blumenthal Sept. 2, 2009 in the NYT

Thanks to Mike C.

IN this summer of town hall disruptions and birth-certificate controversies, a summer when it seemed as if the Republican Party had been captured by its extremist wing, it is worth recalling a now-obscure letter from President Dwight D. Eisenhower.

Although Eisenhower is commonly remembered for a farewell address that raised concerns about the “military-industrial complex,” his letter offers an equally important and relevant warning: to beware the danger posed by those seeking freedom from the “mental stress and burden” of democracy.

The story began in 1958, when Eisenhower received a letter from Robert Biggs, a terminally ill World War II veteran. Biggs told the president that he “felt from your recent speeches the feeling of hedging and a little uncertainty.” He added, “We wait for someone to speak for us and back him completely if the statement is made in truth.”

Eisenhower could have discarded Biggs’s note or sent a canned response. But he didn’t. He composed a thoughtful reply. After enduring Senator Joseph McCarthy of Wisconsin, who had smeared his old colleague Gen. George C. Marshall as a Communist sympathizer, and having guarded the Republican Party against the newly emergent radical right John Birch Society, which labeled him and much of his cabinet Soviet agents, the president perhaps welcomed the opportunity to expound on his vision of the open society.

“I doubt that citizens like yourself could ever, under our democratic system, be provided with the universal degree of certainty, the confidence in their understanding of our problems, and the clear guidance from higher authority that you believe needed,” Eisenhower wrote on Feb. 10, 1959. “Such unity is not only logical but indeed indispensable in a successful military organization, but in a democracy debate is the breath of life.”

Eisenhower also recommended a short book “The True Believer” by Eric Hoffer, a self-educated itinerant longshoreman who earned the nickname “the stevedore philosopher.” “Faith in a holy cause,” Hoffer wrote, “is to a considerable extent a substitute for the lost faith in ourselves.”

Though Eisenhower was criticized for lacking an intellectual framework or even an interest in ideas, he was drawn to Hoffer’s insights. He explained to Biggs that Hoffer “points out that dictatorial systems make one contribution to their people which leads them to tend to support such systems freedom from the necessity of informing themselves and making up their own minds concerning these tremendous complex and difficult questions.” The authoritarian follower, Eisenhower suggested, desired nothing more than insulation from the pressures of a free society.

Alluding to Senator McCarthy and his allies, Eisenhower pointed out that cold war fears were distorted and exploited for political advantage. “It is difficult indeed to maintain a reasoned and accurately informed understanding of our defense situation on the part of our citizenry when many prominent officials, possessing no standing or expertness as they themselves claim it, attempt to further their own ideas or interests by resorting to statements more distinguished by stridency than by accuracy.”

It is worth noting, of course, that these Cold War exaggerations weren’t just a Republican specialty: John F. Kennedy was making a supposed “missile gap” between the United States and the Soviet Union a key element of his presidential campaign.

In closing his letter, Eisenhower praised Biggs for his “fortitude in pondering these problems despite your deep personal adversity.” Perhaps it was the president’s sense of solidarity with a fellow soldier that prompted him to respond to Biggs with such care; and perhaps it was his experience as supreme commander of Allied forces in Europe that taught him that the rise of extreme movements and authoritarianism could take root anywhere — even in a democracy.

Max Blumenthal is the author of “Republican Gomorrah: Inside the Movement That Shattered the Party.”

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Two tickets for Seattle Symphony Holiday Pops

2 tickets are available for the December 10th 2 PM Sunday Matinee. Orchestra Center Row U seats 1 and 2. Price $150 for the pair (purchase price $198). Currently 3 seats are available on the Skyline van. Contact Jim deMaine if interested.

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Everything You Learned About Thanksgiving Is Wrong

By Maya Salam in the NYT — (Thanks to Mary Jane F.)

“The First Thanksgiving at Plymouth,” from 1914, by Jennie Augusta Brownscombe.

Not to rain on your Thanksgiving Day parade, but the story of the first Thanksgiving, as most Americans have been taught it — the Pilgrims and Native Americans gathering together, the famous feast, the turkey — is not exactly accurate.

Thanksgiving facts and Thanksgiving myths have blended together for years like so much gravy and mashed potatoes, and separating them is just as complicated.

Blame school textbooks with details often so abridged, softened or out of context that they are ultimately made false; children’s books that simplify the story to its most pleasant version; or animated television specials like “The Mouse on the Mayflower,” which first aired in 1968, that not only misinformed a generation, but also enforced a slew of cringeworthy stereotypes.

High school textbooks are particularly bad about stating absolutes because these materials “teach history” by giving students facts to memorize even when the details may be unclear, said James W. Loewen, a sociologist and the author of “Lies My Teacher Told Me: Everything Your American History Textbook Got Wrong.”

“That mind-set pervades everything they talk about and certainly Thanksgiving,” he said.

The Mayflower did bring the Pilgrims to North America from Plymouth, England, in 1620, and they disembarked at what is now Plymouth, Mass., where they set up a colony. In 1621, they celebrated a successful harvest with a three-day gathering that was attended by members of the Wampanoag tribe. It’s from this that we derive Thanksgiving as we know it.

Members of Plymouth 400, a nonprofit that contends that the Thanksgiving story began in 1614 when Tisquantum, known as Squanto, and other native people were captured, taken to Europe and sold as slaves.

But it wasn’t until the 1830s that this event was called the first Thanksgiving by New Englanders who looked back and thought it resembled their version of the holiday, said Kate Sheehan, a spokeswoman for Plimoth Plantation, a living history museum in Plymouth. (continued)

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Being grateful

Thanks to Mary Jane F.

                                   Happy Be Thankful Day!

“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” – Maya Angelo

“When you think something nice about someone, let them know.

It’s a shame that we often wait until a person’s funeral to say all of the nice things we thought about them.

The next time you have a positive thought about someone — Tell them, right then!                   

It’s a wonderful thing.”

“Don’t let the ugly in others destroy the beauty in you.”

“Blessed are we, who can laugh at ourselves. For we will never cease to be amused.”

“Good things come to those who believe. Better things come to those who are patient and the best things come to those who Don’t Give Up.”

“People are not beautiful for the way they look, walk, or talk. They are beautiful for the way they Love, Share & Care.”

“Your mind will always believe everything you tell it. Feed it faith. Feed it truth. Feed it love.”

  1. Compliment three people every day.
  2. Watch a sunrise at least once a year.
  3. Be the first to say, “Hello.”
  4. Never give up on anyone. Miracles happen.
  5. Forget the Joneses
  6. Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
  7. Be tough-minded but tenderhearted.
  8. Remember that overnight success usually takes 15 years.
  9. Be kinder than necessary.
  10. Learn how to show cheerfulness, even when you don’t feel like it.
  11. When you arrive at work in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten everyone’s day.
  12. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
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Trying to understand long term care insurance.

Thanks to Janet M. who shares two articles from the NYT:

A Guide to Long-Term Care Insurance and Why Long Term Care Insurance Falls Short for Many

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Great books, courses, and music for the holidays

By Bill Gates | November 20, 2023

Thanks to Ann M.

At the end of the year, it’s always fun to look back on some of the best books I read. For 2023, three came to mind right away, each of them deeply informative and well-written. I’ve also included economics courses by a phenomenal lecturer that I watched more than a decade ago but am still recommending to friends and family today. Just for fun, I threw in a playlist of great holiday songs from past and present, and from the U.S. and around the world. 
I hope you find something fun here to read, watch, or listen to. And happy holidays!
The Song of the Cell, by Siddhartha Mukherjee. All of us will get sick at some point. All of us will have loved ones who get sick. To understand what’s happening in those moments—and to feel optimistic that things will get better—it helps to know something about cells, the building blocks of life. Mukherjee’s latest book will give you that knowledge. He starts by explaining how life evolved from single-celled organisms, and then he shows how every human illness or consequence of aging comes down to something going wrong with the body’s cells. Mukherjee, who’s both an oncologist and a Pulitzer Prize–winning author, brings all of his skills to bear in this fantastic book. 
Ed note: Well worth reading — absolutely fascinating!
Not the End of the World, by Hannah Ritchie. Hannah Ritchie used to believe—as many environmental activists do—that she was “living through humanity’s most tragic period.” But when she started looking at the data, she realized that’s not the case. Things are bad, and they’re worse than they were in the distant past, but on virtually every measure, they’re getting better. Ritchie is now lead researcher at Our World in Data, and in Not the End of the World, she uses data to tell a counterintuitive story that contradicts the doomsday scenarios on climate and other environmental topics without glossing over the challenges. Everyone who wants to have an informed conversation about climate change should read this book. 
Invention and Innovation, by Vaclav Smil. Are we living in the most innovative era of human history? A lot of people would say so, but Smil argues otherwise. In fact, he writes, the current era shows “unmistakable signs of technical stagnation and slowing advances.” I don’t agree, but that’s not surprising—having read all 44 of his books and spoken with him several times, I know he’s not as optimistic as I am about the prospects of innovation. But even though we don’t see the future the same way, nobody is better than Smil at explaining the past. If you want to know how human ingenuity brought us to this moment in time, I highly recommend Invention and Innovation
Online economics lectures by Timothy Taylor. I’ve watched a lot of lecture series online, and Taylor is one of my favorite professors. All three of his series on Wondrium are fantastic. The New Global Economy teaches you about the basic economic history of different regions and how markets work. Economics is best suited for people who want to understand the principles of economics in a deep way. Unexpected Economics probably has the broadest audience, because Taylor applies those principles to things in everyday life, including gift-giving, traffic, natural disasters, sports, and more. You can’t go wrong with any of Taylor’s lectures. 
A holiday playlist. This one doesn’t need much explanation. I love holiday music and have put together a list of some favorites—classics and modern tunes, from the U.S. and around the world. 
You can find all these reviews on my blog now. Happy reading, viewing, and listening. And again, happy holidays. 
Thanks for being an Insider.
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Learning about Assisted Living – Do we need federal guidelines for staffing?

Thanks to Janet M.

There are two excellent New York Times articles recently about Assisted Living pros, cons, costs and staffing. The first is titled A Guide to Assisted Living along with a companion articled titled Added Fees Drive Assisted-Living Profits. Both help understand the general landscape of assisted living. Staffing recommendations from the National Academies of Sciences, Engineering and Medicine are highlighted in the article below from the New England Journal of Medicine.

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Beauty emerges from the shadows

Thanks to Sybil-Ann

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Why?

Thanks to Sybil-Ann

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Who needs Google maps anyway?

Reminiscent of Burma Shave. Thanks to Sybil-Ann.

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Onomatopoeia should be fun!

The Bells

Edgar Allan Poe (to be read aloud with friends!)

I.

        Hear the sledges with the bells—
                 Silver bells!
What a world of merriment their melody foretells!
        How they tinkle, tinkle, tinkle,
           In the icy air of night!
        While the stars that oversprinkle
        All the heavens, seem to twinkle
           With a crystalline delight;
         Keeping time, time, time,
         In a sort of Runic rhyme,
To the tintinabulation that so musically wells
       From the bells, bells, bells, bells,
               Bells, bells, bells—
  From the jingling and the tinkling of the bells.

II.

        Hear the mellow wedding bells,
                 Golden bells!
What a world of happiness their harmony foretells!
        Through the balmy air of night
        How they ring out their delight!
           From the molten-golden notes,
               And all in tune,
           What a liquid ditty floats
    To the turtle-dove that listens, while she gloats
               On the moon!
         Oh, from out the sounding cells,
What a gush of euphony voluminously wells!
               How it swells!
               How it dwells
           On the Future! how it tells
           Of the rapture that impels
         To the swinging and the ringing
           Of the bells, bells, bells,
         Of the bells, bells, bells, bells,
               Bells, bells, bells—
  To the rhyming and the chiming of the bells!

III.

         Hear the loud alarum bells—
                 Brazen bells!
What tale of terror, now, their turbulency tells!
       In the startled ear of night
       How they scream out their affright!
         Too much horrified to speak,
         They can only shriek, shriek,
                  Out of tune,
In a clamorous appealing to the mercy of the fire,
In a mad expostulation with the deaf and frantic fire,
            Leaping higher, higher, higher,
            With a desperate desire,
         And a resolute endeavor
         Now—now to sit or never,
       By the side of the pale-faced moon.
            Oh, the bells, bells, bells!
            What a tale their terror tells
                  Of Despair!
       How they clang, and clash, and roar!
       What a horror they outpour
On the bosom of the palpitating air!
       Yet the ear it fully knows,
            By the twanging,
            And the clanging,
         How the danger ebbs and flows;
       Yet the ear distinctly tells,
            In the jangling,
            And the wrangling.
       How the danger sinks and swells,
By the sinking or the swelling in the anger of the bells—
             Of the bells—
     Of the bells, bells, bells, bells,
            Bells, bells, bells—
 In the clamor and the clangor of the bells!

IV.

          Hear the tolling of the bells—
                 Iron bells!
What a world of solemn thought their monody compels!
        In the silence of the night,
        How we shiver with affright
  At the melancholy menace of their tone!
        For every sound that floats
        From the rust within their throats
                 Is a groan.
        And the people—ah, the people—
       They that dwell up in the steeple,
                 All alone,
        And who tolling, tolling, tolling,
          In that muffled monotone,
         Feel a glory in so rolling
          On the human heart a stone—
     They are neither man nor woman—
     They are neither brute nor human—
              They are Ghouls:
        And their king it is who tolls;
        And he rolls, rolls, rolls,
                    Rolls
             A pæan from the bells!
          And his merry bosom swells
             With the pæan of the bells!
          And he dances, and he yells;
          Keeping time, time, time,
          In a sort of Runic rhyme,
             To the pæan of the bells—
               Of the bells:
          Keeping time, time, time,
          In a sort of Runic rhyme,
            To the throbbing of the bells—
          Of the bells, bells, bells—
            To the sobbing of the bells;
          Keeping time, time, time,
            As he knells, knells, knells,
          In a happy Runic rhyme,
            To the rolling of the bells—
          Of the bells, bells, bells—
            To the tolling of the bells,
      Of the bells, bells, bells, bells—
              Bells, bells, bells—
  To the moaning and the groaning of the bells.

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Enlightened Aging

Recent presentation at Skyline by Eric Larson MD, MPH

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Go or no go

Thanks to Sybil-Ann

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Why We Should Not Build the Downtown Streetcar Connector

By Jim Margard in the Post Alley News

Since when would a series of store closures along First Avenue help to revitalize downtown Seattle? Mayor Bruce Harrell and Seattle Department of Transportation’s vision of a First Avenue connector streetcar would risk such an exodus. If city officials were to honestly engage business owners and managers along this vibrant commercial area with over 500 small businesses, they would get an earful.

I recently visited with dozens of such stakeholders on First Avenue from the Pike Place Market to Pioneer Square. When informed that the connector would eliminate street parking, left turns, most commercial and passenger loading zones, and reduce traffic to one no-stop lane in each direction, virtually all were alarmed, many saying it would do irreparable damage to their ability to operate.

One Pioneer Square owner, still reeling from First Avenue utility construction completed a few years ago, said: “ I’ve run multiple stores here for almost 40 years, through roadwork, the Great Recession, and the pandemic, and the Connector is the one thing would kill us”.

We’ve already seen this movie. Merchants were key to stopping the SDOT-proposed First Hill streetcar line extension north of Denny Street in 2016. After initially embracing the project, the Capitol Hill Chamber of Commerce changed its tune, opposing it after witnessing the damaging impact the line had on businesses on Broadway. Capitol Hill Chamber of Commerce Executive Director Sierra Hansen commented, “If we want to see Broadway thrive, the streetcar is actually the best way to undermine that…it would basically gut access to businesses on Broadway…it limits the access to panel trucks which are the lifeblood of these businesses”.

Advocates cite the operational prospects of a combined streetcar network joining the Capitol Hill Line, terminating in Pioneer Square, and the South Lake Union Line, terminating at Westlake Mall. The existing streetcars averaged about 3,000 passengers a day in 2022, a shrinkage of 35% since 2018. Among the reasons for the decline: would-be passengers worked from home or switched to the new “C” Line and bus routes 40, 62, and 70. The bus lines are frequent, penetrate downtown, and have better transfers with Link Light Rail.

The South Lake Union line had 180,211 passengers in 2022, an average of only 4 riders per trip, despite terminating in the downtown shopping core, a few blocks from the Pike Place Market. I don’t believe that tepid ridership is what streetcar proponents imagined when they conceived the system two decades ago. SDOT’s ridership projection for a connected line has been 20,000-24,000 riders per day. That would equal about 125-150 riders per trip, every hour, 16 hours a day. In what universe is that even possible?

The connector has recently been re-branded by SDOT as the “culture connector.” That designation is a stretch. The proposed Connector network along First Avenue barely comes within a half mile walk of Climate Pledge Arena, The Seattle Rep, Opera, Pacific Northwest Ballet, Museum of Pop Culture, Space Needle, Children’s Museum, Children’s Theater, Chihuly Museum, and Science Center. It would take more than twice as long by traffic-battling streetcar than to go on foot from the Capitol Hill Line’s terminus at First and Jackson to reach the Paramount, ACT, the Moore and 5th Avenue Theaters in downtown Seattle. One of the two arts venues the connector would pass directly in front of (the Showbox) would face an unmanageable loading situation. The project’s “culture” connection would be thin, at best; destructive at worst.

If public transportation to cultural venues is desired, the city should consider less costly, inefficient, and less rigid options that would not require dedicated lanes, and would reach such venues more directly. Electric bus routes could be adapted to downtown needs as they develop rather than be permanently set in concrete like the iron tracks of a streetcar.

First Avenue businesses and residents would not survive without commercial and consumer delivery, passenger load, and disability access vehicles. The new waterfront park will bring more passenger cars, not fewer. Parking demand would rise in the midst of fewer parking options. Eliminating First Avenue parking would further reduce customer visits. Dependent on street parking, Pioneer Square would be hit particularly hard. Vehicles going in and out of parking garages onto single lane traffic on both sides of First Avenue near Columbia Street would cause chronic multi-block backups in both directions. Worse, the First Avenue Connector wouldn’t add a Pioneer Square stop south of Cherry Street.

Then there is the exorbitant price tag of about $300 million ($140,000 per yard) for the three-year Connector construction project. Plus the 50% higher perpetual operating costs relative to buses, long maintenance lead times, and safety issues to pedestrians and two-wheelers. Factor in how slow and unreliable streetcars are, and their disappointing passenger counts. Then consider the irreparable damage to the historic and thriving business and residential communities along the First Avenue route.

The last thing we should do for our fragile downtown is to create new economic dead zones downtown. The Seattle City Council will soon make decisions on funding feasibility studies for the midtown Connector and associated capital spending. That money would be far more constructively used elsewhere.

Jim Margard is a retired entrepreneurial investment manager, founder and partner of Rainier Investment Management, and a Chartered Financial Analyst. He serves on the Finance Committee of the Pike Place Market Foundation and resides at First and Union.

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