PCC Community Markets Sets Date for Downtown Seattle Store Opening

Location set to debut Jan. 19 as co-op reaches 100K member milestone. It’s located in Rainier Square at 1320 4th Avenue. (between Union and University).

Thanks to Janet H for letting us know.

PCC Community Markets

PCC Community Markets has revealed that it will open its long-awaited downtown Seattle location on Wednesday, Jan. 19 at 9 a.m., as the community recovers from the challenges of the COVID-19 pandemic.

“We are thrilled to welcome PCC to downtown Seattle,” said Downtown Seattle Association President and CEO Jon Scholes. “This is an exciting opening for thousands of people who live and work in downtown, and it comes at a critical time as we look to welcome more office workers back and more residents call downtown home than ever before. PCC and its commitment to community is representative of the spirit of downtown Seattle. Last year they stepped up and provided grants to support food access for area nonprofits, and now they will be opening their doors to downtown residents and visitors with a terrific neighborhood full-service grocery.”

Along with the new store, the co-op is also marking the growth of its membership program, which now has more than 100,000 members. While anyone can shop at PCC locations, members who pay a one-time fee of $60 receive a lifetime membership offering exclusive access to in-store offers, invitations to unique events, discounts from partner businesses with similar values, the ability to earn toward a potential annual dividend, and the opportunity to guide PCC by voting in its annual election to determine the board of trustees.

Downtown PCC Store Director Jai San Miguel, who joined the co-op in 2020 and was most recently the director of its Central District location, brings more than 20 years of grocery management experience to his latest role. “I am honored to open our newest location where my passion for team-building and supporting our local communities can be a focus every day,” noted San Miguel. “As the anchor grocery source for a vibrant Downtown, we are excited to be a part of the revitalization of the neighborhood and are committed to becoming a trusted member of the community where people come to enjoy a cup of coffee, catch up with a friend on a lunch break and pick up dinner.”

 The new store also brings job opportunities to the area, as well career advancement for existing staffers. In fact, 40% of the location’s leadership roles have been filled by existing employees who were promoted to support the store. PCC partners with UFCW Local 21, who has represented the co-op’s non-management store staff for almost 40 years.

 As with the grocer’s other stores, Downtown PCC’s shelves are stocked with food and nonfood products made without artificial preservatives, colors, flavors, sweeteners, nanotechnology or synthetic biology. Using those same ingredients, PCC chefs make salads, soups, hot entrées and side dishes fresh from scratch daily onsite in the PCC Kitchen. The store includes a fresh salad bar, a hot bar and a hot soup bar, along with a made-from-scratch deli; a 95% organic produce selection; 100% organic, non-GMO or grass-fed fresh meats, responsibly sourced fresh and frozen raw seafood; a self-serve bakery featuring homemade items; 12 private-brand lines sourced from local producers, in addition to nearly 200 supplements and vitamins packaged in recyclable brown glass to stay fresh; an ample bulk selection, including flours, rice and nuts; and a carefully curated selection of 100% Pacific Northwest-produced spirits to complement its collection of exclusive wines and local beers and ciders.

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Free at-home COVID-19 tests

Click this link to order: www.COVIDtests.gov. The site is up and running today (a day early).

ABOUT THE AT-⁠HOME COVID-⁠19 TESTS

The tests available for order:

  • Are rapid antigen at-home tests, not PCR
  • Can be taken anywhere
  • Give results within 30 minutes (no lab drop-off required)
  • Work whether or not you have COVID-⁠19 symptoms
  • Work whether or not you are up to date on your COVID-⁠19 vaccines
  • Are also referred to self-tests or over-the-counter (OTC) tests
  • There are numerous other options to get tested for free, including over 20,000 free testing sites across the country. If you have health insurance, your insurance will also cover the cost of over-the-counter, at-home tests (up to 8 at-home tests per month for each person on your plan).

When should I use my tests?

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommends that you take an at-home test:

  • If you begin having COVID-⁠19 symptoms like fever, sore throat, runny nose, or loss of taste or smell, or
  • At least 5 days after you come into close contact with someone with COVID-⁠19, or
  • When you’re going to gather with a group of people, especially those who are at risk of severe disease or may not be up to date on their COVID-⁠19 vaccines.

For more on when to use at-home tests, see the latest CDC self-testing guidance.

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The right to vote, civil rights and Harry S Truman

Notes from Heather Cox Richardson

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Saving Canada’s Hardiest Hummingbirds Requires Extreme Care

Thanks to Mary M.

Bird-loving volunteers are going to great lengths to help the animals survive a cold snap in British Columbia.

Residents across southwestern British Columbia and Vancouver Island are going to great lengths to keep Anna's hummingbirds safe during an unusual cold spell.

This piece was originally published in Canada’s National Observer and appears here as part of our Climate Desk collaboration.

THIS MORNING, MY 79-YEAR-OLD DAD was out in the winter dark shoveling a path through a half-foot of fresh snow to ensure his hummingbird feeders were full of fresh, sugary liquid by dawn’s first light. And it wasn’t the first time.

He’s one of a legion of residents across southwestern British Columbia and Vancouver Island on a crusade to ensure resident Anna’s hummingbirds don’t perish in the unusually cold weather gripping the region the past few weeks. People are flocking to hardware stores to hunt for specialized warming bulbs and feeders. My father can attest from personal experience there are none to be found at stores near him.

And the internet is awash with social media posts from people trading advice, tactics, and photos of the contraptions they’ve rigged to keep the feisty little birds fed and warm. Some are tucking lit non-LED lightbulbs in aluminum baking pans taped to the bottom of feeders to keep the nectar from freezing. Others are encasing feeders in socks stuffed with hand-warmer heat packs. Incandescent Christmas lights wrapped around the devices are a big hit, too.

My dad’s method involves preparing a bulk batch of fresh sugar water each night and bringing in the feeders for defrosting and cleaning. Each morning, at least a half-hour before sunrise, he ensures the feeders—swaddled with every washcloth in the house—are dangling on their hooks in the birds’ favorite haunts beside the camellia bush and beneath the grape arbor.

Then, every couple of hours for the rest of the day, he braves the cold to substitute the old feeders with warm reserve ones. This from a man who fled to B.C. to escape Ontario winters as a young man. I’m not sure I can swear my sister and I ever got that level of care and feeding.

Apparently, my father’s devotion to B.C.’s hardiest hummingbird species is not unusual. MARS Wildlife Rescue Centre in the Comox Valley on Vancouver Island is fielding a rash of calls from people looking to help or save their tiny charges.

“It requires a tremendous effort.”

“People are really, really being wonderful trying to save these birds,” says Jo Stiles, a MARS animal caregiver. “They are being really attentive with their feeders so hummingbirds can make it through this cold. But it requires a tremendous effort.”

The birds, which weigh less than five grams, need to constantly eat to maintain their body weight and energy, she adds. Since Dec. 20, the rescue center has received 14 tiny feathered patients that need extra care, Stiles says. To survive the cold, hummingbirds often go into torpor, a hibernation-like state where their body temperature may drop from 107 degrees Fahrenheit to as low as 48 degrees.

People may think the birds are dead in this state, as they can be found hanging from a perch or immobile on the ground. The best remedy is to put the hummingbird and a feeder in a covered box indoors and somewhere quiet until they warm up, Stiles says.

“Let them have some time in there, and when you see them back to being active, then they can be released,” she says. “Unless it’s late in the day, then keep them overnight with a feeder and let them go the next morning.”

Birds that don’t seem to revive within half an hour indoors should be taken to a local rescue where they can get more specialized care, she adds. “That may be an indication that it’s gotten very dehydrated or so hypoglycemic that it can’t reactivate its own system and so it may need some additional help.”

The best thing people can do for the jeweled birds during winter is to make sure they have lots of warm, clean food, but be warned: Anna’s hummingbirds are notoriously territorial about their feeders. My father has given an unmentionable nickname to one pugnacious male that sits on the line across the patio equidistant from both feeders so he can easily chase off interlopers.

Bird lovers are making extraordinary efforts—such as getting up at the crack of dawn to hang warm feeders—to save Anna's hummingbirds during a recent cold snap.
Bird lovers are making extraordinary efforts—such as getting up at the crack of dawn to hang warm feeders—to save Anna’s hummingbirds during a recent cold snap. ROCHELLE BAKER / CANADA’S NATIONAL OBSERVER

The bold little birds also aren’t particularly gracious to their caregivers, either. They wait on my father each morning. The moment he cracks open the door, the iridescent green and scarlet-throated aerialists are zooming and chattering about his head as if to hurry him up. My mother can’t understand why he puts so much work in for such aggressive little birds. “I don’t like them. They’re too much like humans,” she says.

But if you start feeding hummingbirds, you have to commit because they become reliant on that food source, says the SPCA. And my father is nothing but committed. He’d never admit it, but he’s forgoing a short trip to a friend’s for New Year’s citing poor weather. But I suspect the real reason is he doesn’t trust my mother to coddle his beloved hummingbirds carefully enough.

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97-year-old pianist, and last surviving pupil of Rachmaninov, signs landmark record deal

Thanks for this delightful entry from Joan C.

Ruth Slenczynska

Former child prodigy and the last-living pupil of Sergei Rachmaninov, pianist Ruth Slenczynska celebrates her astonishing nine-decade long career with a new album.

For wonderful music and interviews with this now 97 year old pianist CLICK HERE!

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Ruminations about aging (or is just chewing cud)?

Thanks to Gordon G

The devil whispered to me, “I’m coming for you.”  I whispered back, “Bring pizza.”

Me:  (sobbing my heart out, eyes were swollen, nose red)…I can’t see you anymore.  I am not going to let you hurt me like this again!           Trainer: It was a sit up.  You did ONE sit up.

I t’s weird being the same age as old people.

Life is like a helicopter.  I don’t know how to operate a helicopter.

Never sing in the shower!  Singing leads to dancing, dancing leads to slipping, and slipping leads to paramedics seeing you naked.  So, remember…Don’t sing!

During the middle ages they celebrated the end of the plague with wine and orgies.  Does anyone know if there is anything planned when this one end?

I see people about my age mountain climbing; I feel good getting my leg through my underwear without losing my balance

I f you can’t think of a word say “I forgot the English word for it.”  That way people will think you’re bilingual instead of an idiot.

.Cronacoaster   noun:  the ups and downs of a pandemic.  One day you’re loving your bubble, doing work outs, baking banana bread and going for long walks and the next you’re crying, drinking gin for breakfast and missing people you don’t even like

.I ’m at that age where my mind still thinks I’m 29, my humor suggests I’m 12, while my body mostly keeps asking if I’m sure I’m not dead yet.

I ’m getting tired of being part of a major historical event.

I don’t always go the extra mile, but when I do it’s because I missed my exit.

You don’t realize how old you are until you sit on the floor and then try to get back up.

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Let’s laugh!

Thanks to Rosemary W.

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Y.M.C.A – sing and laugh along!

Thanks to Sybil-Ann

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Saying goodbye to 2021 – it didn’t count!

Thanks to Mary Jane F.

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Blog feedback

Below are some average stats from the skyline725 blog. Thank you all for the fun submissions. I can’t post them all so please forgive the editor’s prerogative! Even so, please feel free to send me items of interest to post. The blog, as you can see, is very eclectic. Currently there are 121 followers composed of Skyliners, families and friends near and far.

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The joys (and challenges) of sex after 70 and beyond

The New York Times Magazine takes on this little talked about subject in a lengthy article written by Maggie Jones who is a contributing writer for the magazine and teaches writing at the University of Pittsburgh. She has been a Nieman fellow at Harvard University and Senior Ochberg fellow at the Dart Center for Journalism and Trauma at Columbia University. Click here to read the article.

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A COLLECTION OF APHORISMS

Thanks to Mary Jane F.

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The current tsunami of the Omicron variant in King County – what personal choices should we make?

“….health officials in Washington continue to report record COVID-19 hospitalizations, largely driven by omicron. Hospitals are struggling with high rates of hospitalizations, staff shortages and scarce testing supplies. The Washington National Guard will help staff hospitals and testing sites across the state in an effort to ease stresses on the health care system.” (The Seattle Times).

We’ve had more that a half a dozen staff and residents with recent COVID-19 infections. What to do on a personal level, being fully vaccinated, remains problematic. Here are a few thoughts and concerns:

  1. At one recent social event, eleven IDL residents were required to go into quarantine after exposure to a COVID infection. Reports from some quarantined residents say the experience has been truly awful (five days in strict quarantine; five days a bit less strict).
  2. Is it safe to have unmasked group dining events such as the Robert Burns dinner or Sky Opera dinner? The decision is yours to make, but please understand your risk of being placed under quarantine if you are at a table with someone who is later discovered to be infected.
  3. Should we have high quality masks available for purchase (about $1) within Skyline? Either at the Corner Store or via the Concierge?
  4. A number of our fellow residents are immunosuppressed: cancer, transplants, immunosuppressive drugs, etc. Our social responsibility is to protect them.
  5. It seems that we need to be cautious at the present moment, waiting for the wave of Omicron to peak and decline–we’re certainly not there yet.

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Just attach the …. to the …..

Testing, testing. Great meeting today! If only I could have understood what was said. Problems obviously persist in trying to relay decent sound from the MBR to our apartments on Zoom or channel 371 from the audio set-up there. Are we missing a connection or a mic or…..? If Town Hall has clear audio and St. James has figured it out, why can’t we?

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Steps – In The Snow

Thanks to Janet H.

Art takes many forms… Paintings, Watercolor, Photography, Charcoal, Sculpture, Tree Shaping, etc., etc…   Here’s one that you most likely never knew existed… it takes 10,000 steps to accomplish this…

This fellow will stay thin with this hobby.

   This guy is amazing!  It’s hard to imagine how he manages to “see” what
he’s done from where he works, at snow-level.  How does he keep within his
intricate geometric shapes? Does he use a drone to guide him?  Or to record
his work on these awesome videos?

Simon Beck is a British snow artist and a former cartographer.
Referred to as the world’s first snow artist, he is primarily known for his
landscape drawings and sculptures created from snow and sand.  His work
appeared in news media after he completed installations at Banff National
Park in Alberta and at Powder Mountain in Utah.

He has walked more than 50 miles (80km) in circles wearing snowshoes to
create vast snow drawings in Colorado.  Imagine his physical condition!

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What’s next?

Thanks to Rosemary W.

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John Oliver exposes Dr. Oz

Ed. note: The NYT today has an Opinion piece on Dr. Oz’s entry into the US Senate race in Pennsylvania. For a bit of history of his involvement with the dietary supplement industry, please view this serious/hilarious somewhat off-color monologue by John Oliver–followed by the NYT’s commentary.

John Oliver outlines what, exactly is problematic about Dr. Oz and the nutrition supplement industry. Then he invites George R.R. Martin, Steve Buscemi, the Black and Gold Marching Elite, and some fake real housewives on the show to illustrate how to pander to an audience without hurting anyone.

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Take a Good Look at What Dr. Oz Is Selling Us Now

By Annaliese Griffin – Ms. Griffin is a journalist who writes about culture, lifestyle and health.

It’s perhaps an understatement to say that Americans have a difficult and contradictory relationship with our bodies.

Every decade or so there is a new optimal way to feed ourselves, along with increasingly outlandish weight-loss regimens and whole categories of foods to champion or fear. We revel in the sophistication of medical science while widely distrusting it, and our politicians refuse to support a health care system in which everyone has access to basic, compassionate care. We are overly sedentary, but when we exercise we value strenuous over relaxing movement, strain over ease, striving over acceptance.

No one embodies these obsessions better than Mehmet Oz, known as Dr. Oz to American daytime television viewers. Dr. Oz, who has styled himself as a kind of high priest in the church of American wellness, recently announced his candidacy in the Republican primary for an open Senate seat in Pennsylvania — a race that could decide control of the chamber.

As Dr. Oz pursues this pivotal position, he should be seen as more than a celebrity turned politician. He’s rightly understood as a kind of quasi-religious leader, one who has set up his revival tent between a yoga studio and an urgent-care clinic, with the television cameras rolling. And many Americans are primed and ready to commit to his doctrine, which promises boundless possibility so long as we invest in individual responsibility — for our health and for everything else.

This is worrying. As we collectively face yet another surge of coronavirus infections, leaders who extol individualism aren’t simply ineffective — they’re dangerous. If there’s anything we should be taking away from the past two years, it’s that autonomy and self-reliance are inadequate for 21st-century problems such as climate change, structural racism and the pandemic.

The son of Turkish immigrants, born in Cleveland, and by all accounts a gifted surgeon, Dr. Oz gained notice as a frequent guest on “The Oprah Winfrey Show,” appearances that earned him the tag “America’s doctor” and led to the introduction of “The Dr. Oz Show” in 2009. Over 13 seasons, the frequent topics of the show, which at its height regularly drew over a million viewers per week, could also be a list of Americans’ biggest bodily anxieties: weight loss, cancer, weight loss, aging, weight loss, sleep problems, poop problems and, oh, weight loss.

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Portrait of a city – exploring doughnut economics

Thanks to Marilyn W and Diane S

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The dystopian world of pictures on the internet

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May you find happiness throughout this year

Thanks to Sybil-Ann

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Democracy not violence: Americans, please take this pledge

Thanks to Put B. If you would like to see who has signed on already, the list is available at www.democracynotviolence.us by clicking on “Signers.” 

By Brian Baird Special to The Seattle Times

On the anniversary of the worst attack on our democratic republic since the horrors and bloodshed of the Civil War, it is time to ask whether people stand with the democratic process or with violence against our own government. The question should be straightforward, and the answer should be given without equivocation or hesitation.   

Will you sign your name and make a personal pledge to support democracy in words and deeds and oppose violence and threats of violence from any and all sources?Take this pledge

For the sake of our nation and in the name of decency and civility, I will not engage in, promote, condone, excuse, deny, or minimize any act or threat of violence against any elected or employed government official at any level of government, nor will I support any individual or organization that does so.  Take the pledge at democracynotviolence.us

Every person who serves or wishes to serve in elective office or as a government employee at any level should endorse this pledge. All legitimate media and all political parties should sign on, as should any person or organization that makes political contributions. At a personal level, every American should make this commitment and abide by it. 

Nothing, not the approval of a demagogic leader, not fear of a primary opponent, not fiery political rhetoric, not polling numbers, not advertising revenue, not a legislative interest for which you need a party or officials’ support — nothing can excuse such conduct or support for such conduct against our democracy. If a candidate for office or political party refuses to sign on or conduct themselves consistently with this pledge, then they should lose your vote, your contributions, your advertising revenue, or any other form of support. It must be that simple, that clear.

When school board members, public health officials, election workers, members of the state Legislature, or Congress and their staff, Capitol police, journalists, judges, and others who are central to a functioning government are subject to the most vile and menacing threats and attacks, something is desperately wrong with our country and our people.

How can we possibly expect good people to seek political office or work as government employees if elected officials, political candidates, major political parties, and media organizations incite or participate in threats or acts of violence? That path can only lead to the destruction of the nation, not its preservation, and the consequences for the United States of America and the free world will be catastrophic.

Recent reports have revealed that 9,600 threats were recorded against members of Congress in 2021. No one has tallied the total numbers of threats at all the other levels of government from state legislatures to city councils and school boards, but the number would likely be shockingly high. Perhaps that explains why recent polling suggests two out of three Americans believe our democracy is threatened. On the positive side, only a very small percentage of people approve of what happened on Jan. 6, but far too many have been quick to excuse those who incited and participated in the events.   

Pledging not to engage in, promote or condone violence should not and must not be a partisan issue. If someone is reluctant to sign this pledge because they fear it is contrary to their political interests or their political party, or because they believe a political figure or leader will not approve, what does that say about their priorities and what does it say about their political party or their leaders?

The week before Christmas I was in the Capitol and House office buildings. What I encountered there was deeply troubling. Having worked as a clinical psychologist for two decades before serving in Congress, including extensive work with veterans and others who had experienced significant trauma, the level of despondency, stress and depression that I saw in the faces of many Capitol police officers and congressional staff was striking. These are good, dedicated people who have committed to serve the nation and an institution they and we all love. Yet their spirits have been deeply wounded, in some cases crushed, by what happened on Jan. 6 and in its aftermath.

For their sake, and for the sake of the nation, we must turn things around. The message must be unmistakable and unequivocal that the kinds of events witnessed during the Jan. 6 attack on the Capitol, and in countless local and state examples before and after, must not ever happen again anywhere in our nation. 

This madness of anger, threats and violence must not be glorified or condoned, and it has to stop now. Only the democratic process can save our democratic republic, but if we look the other way or fail to insist that violence has no place then we risk losing that which we hold most dear. To show your support, sign the pledge at democracynotviolence.us and then insist that anyone who serves in or runs for office publicly commits and adheres to the pledge.

The Seattle Times occasionally closes comment threads if commenters violate our code of conduct. If you would like to share your thoughts about this Op-Ed, please submit a Letter to the Editor of no more than 200 words to be considered for publication in our Opinion section. Send to: letters@seattletimes.com.

Brian Baird served as the Democratic representative from Washington’s 3rd Congressional District for six terms. A resident of Edmonds, he is now chair of The National Museum and Center for Service.

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Someone’s calling you

Thanks to Mary M.

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What if There’s No Such Thing as Closure?

Ed note: I listened to this article today on “The Daily”–a New York Times free podcast. I’ve always felt that the linear notion of resolving grief is overstated as is the idea of closure. Pauline Boss writes that grief takes many forms: for example, dealing with aging, caregiving, loss, COVID, etc. She challenges the ideas of Freud and Kubler-Ross. Can we ever say grief is “over?”

By Meg Bernhard

  • Published Dec. 15, 2021 Updated Dec. 19, 2021

To hear more audio stories from publications like The New York Times, download Audm for iPhone or Android.

When I first visited Pauline Boss in late May, Minneapolis was on the cusp of fully reopening. Boss, who is 87, greeted me in her building’s lobby wearing thick-framed glasses, her light blonde hair short and an Apple Watch clasped on her left wrist. She cautiously extended a hand toward me. “Can we shake hands?” she asked, smiling. “Dare we?” We did.

The apartment was bright, with two walls of windows pouring sky into the space. Bookshelves were filled with works of sociology, psychology and history; a section was devoted primarily to Sigmund Freud, and another to Boss’s hometown, New Glarus, Wis. Out the window, the Mississippi River churned under bridges, past the tangle of downtown.

The view, however spectacular, was not the apartment’s selling point. The elevators were. Boss, an emeritus professor of family social science — the study of families and close relationships — chose the place seven years ago because her husband’s declining health had made it difficult for him to climb the stairs of their house near the University of Minnesota, where she taught. His decline was gradual. In 2000, he was using a cane; by last year, when he was 88, rheumatoid arthritis had rendered him unable to walk. Vascular issues resulted in open wounds on his legs.

Despite his illness, the couple maintained a semblance of normalcy, entertaining guests, going for drives and attending the theater, until last year, when the pandemic isolated them in the apartment. Then, their only visitors were home health aides; once they left, Boss would take care of her husband, changing the dressing on his bandages and administering his medications.

“It sneaks up on you,” Boss said of the burden of caregiving and its attendant emotional struggles. She felt a range of contradictory feelings: gratitude for their time together, grief over the loss of their old rhythms and anxiety at the inevitability of his death. Boss was also confused about her role in their partnership. Once solely his wife, she was now also his caregiver.

With her husband’s drawn-out illness, Boss’s life came to resemble the cases she’d spent her career studying. Nearly 50 years ago, as a doctoral student in child development and family studies at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, she researched families with at least one member who was either physically or psychologically absent. Her initial studies in the 1970s focused on families in which fathers were too busy working to spend time with their children, and later on the wives of fighter pilots who were missing in action during the Vietnam War. The fathers were psychologically absent but physically present, while the fighter pilots were the reverse. Each situation created a sensation of limbo for family members, a lingering sense of grief over losses whose nature was uncertain.

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How much snow?

Thanks to Yvonne P. and Canadian friends

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Meanwhile in Canada

Our neighbors to the north have many lessons for us.

Click here for learning about fun!

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