“From the very beginning, George Gair marched me to the front row and put me down directly across from where Muldoon sat, saying to me ‘well he can’t ignore you there, dear’. So yes, it was daunting.”
Waring, who went on to be one of only two women in in National’s caucus until 1981, said misogyny was part of the most basic of procedures at Parliament in the 1970s.
“There would always be the obvious. Things like, you’d walk into a room, and it was not necessarily the Parliamentary caucus, it was just a sign of the times, and the meeting would be called to order and they would say ‘gentleman’, because you’re just not supposed to be there.”
As the number of women in Parliament grew, there was a battle to combine motherhood with work.
Prime Minister Jim Bolger and Finance Minister Ruth Richardson make their way to the House of Representatives for the presentation of the 1991 budget Photo: Te Ara / Public Domain
Ruth Richardson was one of the first sitting MPs to have a baby and Waring recalled the resistance to this.
“I can remember Ruth Richardson breastfeeding in one of the offices off the voting lobby and a Member of Parliament had a point of order saying ‘there was a stranger in the House’ … the baby.”
It took a decade before Parliament had its own childcare centre and it is now normal to see women breastfeeding in the debating chamber.
Labour’s Willow-Jean Prime was the first to do so in 2017 and rules have also changed to allow parents to take compassionate leave to get their children home earlier on sitting days.
Willow-Jean Prime Photo: ©VNP / Phil Smith
“Otherwise we are here until 10pm,” Prime said.
“I have vivid memories of bathing my baby in my office, in her baby bath on my table, at 8pm before that had changed,” Prime said.
National’s Judith Collins said Parliament may be more family-friendly, but women MPs still faced harassment working in the public eye, even in their own homes.
“I get things like, and I’m sure other MPs will have had this, people who ring up at 3am. Recently I had one that started about 12am and finished about 8am,” Collins said.
Judith Collins Photo: RNZ / Angus Dreaver
“It’s normally a male on the other end, actually it’s always a male, to be frank, on the other end.”
Aotearoa celebrated the 125th anniversary of women’s suffrage in 2018; the same year Jacinda Ardern became this country’s first female prime minister to have a baby in office.
While these milestones – including today’s – are being commemorated, Collins said there was more work to do.
“We have to remember that us having equal numbers in Parliament does not necessarily translate to all women in New Zealand having a fair go.”