From Crosscut: Anthony B. Robinson was the Senior Minister of Plymouth Church in downtown Seattle from 1990 to 2004. He was also a member of the Plymouth Housing Group Board. After living for many years in southeast Seattle, he moved recently to Ballard.
“I was visiting with a friend not long ago who confessed to a fear of retirement.
“I’m just not sure what I’ll do,” he told me, “or maybe of who I will be?”
“It’s a reasonable apprehension. Work really does mean a whole lot more than a paycheck. The three Rs that work offers — role, relationships and routine — are important.
“Let’s start with role. Like it or not, work defines us. “I’m a teacher.” “A cop.” “A dentist.” It’s the answer to what is sometimes the first question you’re asked at a party: “What do you do?” However as much people insist that whay you do is not who you are, in America work does provide a defining role and identity — one of the reasons that unemployment is so hard.
“But that’s not all. Given the time most Americans put in on the job, work generates many of our most important relationships, that second R. Our work colleagues are the people, apart from immediate family, whom we see most often. Some we like. Others not so much. But either way they fill our lives with daily human encounters and check-ins and, in some cases, deep friendships that go beyond the workplace.
The third R, routine, is something precious that a person may lose in retirement. Even if routine becomes too routine, verging into rut, it provides a comforting pattern to the days and weeks. Pattern or routine gives shape and order to our lives. Too much of it may be a drag, but too little presents problems as well. There’s a reason some retirees struggle with alcohol abuse.
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